Relationship Advice: What Men & Women Want You to Hear

Team MyMuse - Oct 01, 2024

Discover what men and women truly want from each other beyond the stereotypes. Here’s relationship advice straight from both sides to help you understand better.

Over the years, many have pondered the age-old questions: What do women want? and What do men want? Instead of turning to the people closest to us our partners or friends it seems easier to scour the internet for answers. But hey, no judgment here! That’s where we come in, bringing you some real-life relationship wisdom that goes beyond the typical advice of communication, respect, and "putting your partner first." We’ve gathered the relationship advice that people might not always say out loud, but it’s definitely what you want to know.

What Men Really Want You to Know

1. Tell ‘em What You Want

Ah, the infamous “Where do you want to eat?” conversation the bane of every relationship. Most of your time is spend just sitting there, starving, scrolling through delivery apps. And when he asks you, you shrug and say, “I don’t know, what do you want?” It may seem small, but making the decision once in a while is a big relief. Plus, it takes some of the pressure off us and makes dinner feel less like a game of 20 Questions.

2. Stop Dating F-Bois

Here’s the thing: you can’t fix someone who isn’t willing to fix themselves. We've all heard the phrase "I can change him" or "He'll grow up eventually." But let’s be real if he’s not already showing ambition or effort, it’s not your job to be his life coach. Men want partners who see them for who they are, not for who they might become after a major life overhaul. And if you think what he is is something you have to salvage, better let him be. Instead, you can focus on yourself and a personal massager for women with some delicious lubricant gel.

3. Show Interest in His Hobbies

We get it, you probably couldn’t care less about his obscure collection of retro video games or his questionably lame meme folder. But showing a little interest in what lights him up can go a long way. It’s not about becoming a superfan of his hobbies, but engaging with them occasionally shows you care about what makes him happy.

4. Ask Us Out Sometimes

We live in a world where equality is (thankfully) becoming the norm, so why should asking someone out be any different? Men often hesitate to approach women because they don’t want to seem pushy or, worse, creepy. When women make the first move, it’s a refreshing change of pace that can help eliminate those awkward "does she like me?" doubts. Relationships should be a two-way street, including who initiates dates. Asking him out not only makes him feel desired, but it also removes some of the pressure that society traditionally places on men.

5. Do It If You Want To

Let’s be clear there should never be any pressure to be intimate, but if you want to, go for it. But if you don’t, then just don’t! Intimacy should be about mutual desire, not obligations or expectations. Being open and honest about what you want and when you want it creates a healthy dynamic that both partners can enjoy. Physical intimacy is a key part of many relationships, but the most important element is making sure both parties are on the same page and comfortable.

What Women Really Want You to Know

1. No, You Can’t “Win Her Over”

Contrary to what rom-coms might have you believe, you can’t “convince” someone to fall in love with you. If she’s not into you, no amount of grand gestures, persistence, or poetic declarations will change that. Trying to win her over when she’s not interested can come off as disrespectful and pushy. Respect her feelings and move on when the signs are clear. It shows maturity, and who knows? There might be someone else who's totally into you just around the corner.

2. Make Her Laugh

Laughter is the secret sauce to many successful relationships. Sure, you don’t have to be a stand-up comedian, but making her smile even when things get tough is a game-changer. Women love humor because it breaks tension, brings joy, and shows that you can take life a little less seriously. Couples who laugh together often feel more connected, less stressed, and generally happier. Whether it’s an inside joke or a funny story, a good sense of humor goes a long way in keeping things light and fun.

3. Remember the Little Things

Did she mention her favorite coffee flavor in passing a month ago? Or that quirky book she wanted to read? Bringing these little things up later on shows that you’re really paying attention. It’s not about grand gestures all the time sometimes it’s the small, thoughtful acts that mean the most. When you remember the small details, it shows that you’re not just hearing her, but truly listening. This helps her feel valued and understood, which is the foundation of any strong relationship.

4. No... You-Know-What Pics

Let’s keep this classy. Unless you’re absolutely, 100% sure she’s into it, avoid sending any “risqué” photos.It’s not a smooth move like our Glide water-based lubricant. Most women don’t appreciate unsolicited images, and it can lead to a lot of awkwardness and discomfort. Establishing boundaries around intimacy, especially in the digital age, is crucial. Communicate openly and always get clear consent before sharing anything of that nature.

5. Keep Snacks on Deck

Okay, this might sound funny, but snacks are a big deal. Snacks = comfort. Whether it’s a late-night Netflix session or a lazy Sunday, having snacks nearby is always a win. Women appreciate when you think ahead and keep the essentials close by, whether it's chocolate, chips, or whatever her go-to snack is. It shows you care about her needs, even the small, snack-sized ones.