Kiss and Tell: Secrets on How to Kiss for the First Time
An everything guide on how to kiss for the very first time.
Imagine dropping your date back home after a wonderful, electric date night- the tension is palpable, the air is riddled with nervous anticipation and you're awaiting the moment when you can turn towards them and lean in for a kiss. We’re so sold on the idea that our first kiss is supposed to be this mind-blowing, earth-shattering experience, but more often than not it’s filled with teeth or tongue or awkwardness.
In the best cases, it might lead to you and your partner using our Link remote-controlled massager together, but let’s not jump the gun.
We’re here to the rescue! Here's a guide on how to kiss for the first time, to make your first kiss a whole lot smoother.
How To Kiss For The First Time
1. Consent Makes Things Spicier
Try to check in with yourself, as well as your partner to see whether this feels like the natural next step. We know asking questions isn't really what we’re used to seeing on screen but it’s actually a natural, exciting process. Of course, there are bodily cues that set the mood, but it’s always important to know how the other person is viewing the situation and to assess if you're ready. It’s okay to take a breath and ask them if it’s okay for you to kiss them, if done right, it’s quite sexy.
2. The Breathing Game
The kiss often becomes richer when it’s followed by tons of anticipation. This heightens the urgency, making the air more charged and the kiss more passionate. The moment when you're about to kiss is most remembered, so make it count- tease, pause and linger.
3. Start Slow
It’s important to find your rhythm when it comes to kissing. Start slow, tender, almost like you have all the time in the world, and allow the pace to build naturally. It doesn't have to start rough and fast, let it be gentle, and savour the experience.
4. Setting The Mood
While we're all up for spontaneity, first kisses can often be awkward. It can be nice to set the mood. Maybe pick a safe, cosy, comfortable space, eat some gum if that makes you feel less conscious, and perhaps ease into it with some couples card games to build the mood.
5. Enjoy The awkwardness
When we recount stories of our first kisses, it is often the funny, unhinged stuff that makes the cut. That's what makes this experience so unique and wonderful. Don't try to cut it out. Embrace the weird. It’s okay if your noses bump, or if their earring gets stuck in your sweater- it’s these silly little things that make it a human experience.
But What do I do after?!
A kiss, by itself, is a valid, enjoyable form of intimacy. Try not to put pressure on it, or measure your relationship in levels. Even after the kiss, let the awkwardness sit in the car with you (or the room, or the doorway). It’s perfectly okay to be overwhelmed and at a loss for words. This is a good point to check in with your partner and perhaps revert to alternate forms of intimacy that come more naturally to you, like hugging or holding hands with each other. You can also come home and use the best body massagers in India ;)
All you need to know is that this isn't a defining moment. You already know a little more about how to kiss for the first time around. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself and try to ground yourself in the present moment.
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