An Introvert’s Guide To Make The First Move
Nazma Kazani - Jul 01, 2024
How to spark magic for anyone who’d rather take things slow and steady instead of fast and dirty? Follow each of these steps to impress a potential partner without making grand gestures and flash mobs. You can be an introvert and still wow your date using these subtle techniques
Whether you’re single, taken, or poly, there’s one thing we can all agree on- Dating is hard.
Regardless of what age, sexual orientation, or corner of the globe you belong to, it never seems to get easy. If Tiffany Haddish and Jamie Fox have dating trouble, do the rest of us even have a chance?
Point is, that it can be hard to put yourself out there and be vulnerable with a potential partner. Now imagine that with the added pressure of being an introvert. If you’d rather stay home and binge another series than get dressed and be social, we see you.
But if you are looking for a partner-in-crime to use Surprise Dates with, you have to wear pants, look presentable, put yourself out there, and fight your instincts to run away. And since Joey’s “How you doin’?” line doesn’t always work like a charm, we’ve got a few pointers to help you make the first move.
Textual Is Sexual
Texting can be a comfort zone for introverts facing dating anxiety. It allows you to process what’s said and respond without the pressure of social settings. So, use texting to let your bold side shine! Impress your date even before you meet with clever replies and witty banter.
MyMuse ProTip: Suggest meeting up and making the ultimate first move. And make it a fun proposition: a hot wings challenge at a restaurant or a bet that you can throw back a pint faster than them. Cute interactions and a few laughs are bound to happen.
A Pre-Date Ritual
Having a routine is helpful for psyching yourself up for a date when the nerves start kicking in. For me, that routine skewed towards engaging my senses like using my Pulse full body massager for a few minutes and then doing my elaborate skincare routine. But the part of my routine that felt actually soothing was having on 90s nostalgia tunes while I got ready and shook off all the stress in my body. I don't know if that, specifically, would work for you, but try to discover whatever calming ritual feels effective before you go out.
The Sweet Spot
If you shine in the comfort and safety of sameness, stick to a go-to spot instead of planning the typical movie date night. Being somewhere you love, whether it's a bar or a café or somewhere else, will put you in a safe space.
And tbh, it takes off the stress when someone texts “I’m okay with wherever” and you’re immediately thrown in a tizzy of picking a place that will reflect your chill, relaxed, and casual persona. Plus, you know where all the exits and the loo are if you need to take a breather.
Subtlety Is Your Strong Suit
In case you haven’t got the memo, minimalism is king. You don’t have to make a grand gesture right on your first move. Just make sure your soirée is simple, subtle and has those little details that will make both of you smile. It’s not about one significant first move; it’s about the little moves you make before it. So, pick up your date at their house, read the book they’re reading, or notice small details about how they’re dressed.
Smile, Please
Making engaging conversations, especially on a first date, can be tricky even for extroverts. So, when all else fails, smile and compliment them. I promise this works better than asking how many siblings they have or what they think about Game of Thrones S8.
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