How to Gift Your Partner a Massager They’ll Actually Love

Swagata Deshmukh - Feb 28, 2025

Want to gift your partner a massager without making it awkward? Here’s how to pick one they’ll actually love—because nothing says ‘I care’ like good vibes!

So, you’ve decided to gift your partner a massager. First of all—round of applause. 👏 You, my friend, are officially a thoughtful, pleasure-positive, forward-thinking genius. But let’s be real—giving your partner a massager isn’t the same as handing over a scented candle or a cute coffee mug. There’s a right way to do it, and a very, very awkward way. (Spoiler: tossing it at them with a wink and saying, "Figured you could use this," is the awkward way.)

Why Couples Should Use Toys (Hint: They Make Everything Better)

Here’s the thing—massagers (aka pleasure products, intimacy enhancers, literal magic-makers) aren’t just for solo play. In fact, they’re one of the easiest ways to turn up the heat together. Think of them as that spicy secret ingredient in a chef’s signature dish. They make everything smoother, more exciting, and—let’s be honest—easier on the wrists.

More pleasure (Duh.)
Better communication about what feels good
Less pressure on one person to ‘perform’
Breaking out of a bedroom routine (Goodbye, same three positions, hello excitement!)

So if you’re wondering, "Is it weird to get my partner a massager?" the answer is absolutely not. It’s thoughtful, sexy, and shows you’re invested in their pleasure—which is the best kind of partner energy. Plus, it’s a gift that keeps on giving—literally. A good massager will be in rotation long after that expensive dinner date is forgotten.

How to Choose the Right Massager

Now, let’s talk selection. Because if you randomly grab the first one you see, you might end up with something that looks like a tiny spaceship and vibrates with the force of a lawnmower. Not ideal.

Here’s what to consider:

For them, for you, or for both?

If they love solo time, go for a massager that’s beginner-friendly and easy to use. You can go for Beat for him or Groove for her.
If you’re looking for something to share, consider a remote-controlled or couple-friendly option.

Discreet vs. statement piece?

Some people want something sleek and subtle. Others are down for a massager that proudly announces itself. Know your audience.

Intensity and features

Do they like gentle teasing sensations, or are they more of a go big or go home type? Different massagers offer different speeds, patterns, and intensities.

Material and quality

No one wants a cheap, plasticky vibe that sounds like an electric toothbrush. Look for body-safe silicone, waterproof designs, and whisper-quiet motors (because roommates exist).

How to Have The Conversation

Okay, now you’ve picked the perfect gift. But how do you give it without it feeling like a weird sales pitch?

What not to do:

Hand it over like a prank gift ("Here, try this, haha")
Suggest it like a fix ("I thought this might help spice things up...")
Make it too clinical ("According to studies, external stimulation increases pleasure by 78 percent")

What to do instead:

Frame it as a fun adventure ("I saw this and thought it could be really fun for us")
Make it part of a gift set (pair it with a cosy robe, scented candles, and a playlist—hello, romance)
Show excitement ("I can’t wait for us to try this out together")

And if they’re unsure? No pressure. Let them warm up to the idea—pleasure is all about feeling comfortable and confident, not forced.

Final Thoughts

Gifting your partner a massager is an amazing idea as an anniversary gift, birthday gift of just-because gift is grea—as long as you do it right. It’s personal, it’s thoughtful, and let’s be honest—it’s a lot more exciting than a box of chocolates. So go forth, pick the perfect one, and prepare for some very fun thank-you notes. With that said, you can never go wrong with a MyMuse massager.

Happy gifting.