How to Talk About Toys in the Bedroom with Your Partner

Swagata Deshmukh - Jan 03, 2025

If you’ve been toying (pun intended) with the idea of introducing some extra excitement into your intimate moments, we’ve got you covered.

Talking about intimacy can feel a bit like trying to parallel park when someone’s watching. Awkward, nerve-wracking, and full of the potential for weird misunderstandings. But when it comes to spicing things up with toys in the bedroom, a little awkwardness is a small price to pay for a whole lot of fun.

If you’ve been toying (pun intended) with the idea of introducing some extra excitement into your intimate moments, we’ve got you covered. Here’s how to broach the topic without breaking a sweat—or the mood.

Why Talking About Toys Matters

First, let’s address the elephant—or should we say massager—in the room. Toys in the bedroom or (anywhere else) aren’t about fixing something that’s broken or replacing your connection. They’re about enhancing what you already have. Think of them as seasoning to your relationship—it’s delicious on its own, but a little spice never hurt anyone.

In fact, studies show that couples who explore together often feel closer and more in tune with each other’s needs.

How to Start the Conversation

1. Choose Your Moment

Timing is everything. You don’t want to bring this up mid-argument or when your partner’s elbow-deep in a bag of chips during a Netflix binge. Find a moment when you’re both relaxed—maybe over dinner or during a cosy weekend cuddle session.

2. Keep It Casual

No need to whip out a PowerPoint presentation (unless that’s your thing). Start small. Mention an article you read, a show you saw, or even a cheeky meme. A casual, “Hey, I came across this—what do you think?” can open the door without feeling like a full-on interrogation.

3. Be Honest

Your partner isn’t a mind reader, so share your reasons openly. Whether it’s curiosity, wanting to try something new, or simply adding a little flair to date night, framing it as something you want to explore together can make all the difference.

What to Say (Without Making It Awkward)

The key to talking about toys is focusing on you rather than placing expectations on your partner. Try these approaches:

“I’ve been curious about trying something new together—what do you think about exploring this?”
“I saw this and thought it could be a fun way to connect.”
“It’s not about replacing anything; it’s about adding to the fun!”

And if your partner’s hesitant? Reassure them it’s all about the experience, not the equipment. After all, the goal is to enhance your connection, not replace it.

Handling Hesitations

Let’s say your partner isn’t jumping at the idea. Totally normal. They might feel unsure or even insecure, and that’s okay. Reassure them with empathy:

“It’s just something I’d love to try together—it’s all about us.”
“We can start small and see how it feels. No pressure.”

If all else fails, throw in a light-hearted joke to break the ice: “Worst case, it doesn’t work for us, and we’ve got a great story for future brunches.”

How to Choose the Right Toy

If you’re both on board, it’s time for the fun part—shopping! Here’s how to narrow down your options:

Start Simple: A beginner-friendly toy like a massager or lubricant is a great entry point. (Pro tip: MyMuse’s Glide is a must-have in every bedroom.)
Think Together: Look for couple-friendly options, like a dual-stimulation massager (we see you, Link).
Stay Curious: Keep the focus on exploring together, not on what’s trending or what worked for your friend’s cousin.

Talking about toys in the bedroom can feel like a big leap, but it’s really just another step in building intimacy and trust. Keep the conversation light, the vibes fun, and the focus on exploring together.

Ready to take the plunge? Check out MyMuse’s beginner-friendly range designed to help couples connect like never before. Who knows? This might just become your new favourite conversation starter.