We might be biased over at MyMuse HQ, but tbh we’ve always loved massages– whether it's the express kind, long luxurious spa sessions, or spontaneous back rubs from bae. Massages release tension in the mind and body, engage the senses, and stimulate muscle growth and skin healing. Plus they just feel so damn good (sometimes even better than sex).
But erotic or sensual massage, practiced on yourself or with a partner, is a whole different level of amazing. Firstly, it’s the perfect way to connect both physically and emotionally with your own or your partner's body. And it’s a huge turn on to boot. It’s also a great way to switch up your foreplay routine (we wrote more about that here).
In this article, Sex expert Anabelle Knight says:
"massage, one of the most intimate kinds of touch, is an amazing way of communicating with your lover."
Massage is one of the purest forms of giving, translating mood and emotion into tangible touch and feeling. Here are a few tips to give a bomb sensual massage that’ll leave you and/or your lucky partner on cloud nine:
Set the Scene
First things first– create an environment that whispers sensual and sexy in all the right ways. It doesn’t take much– just keep your space neat and uncluttered, and make sure there’s a comfortable spot to lay on. To avoid getting your furniture oily, lay down a sheet before getting started. Dim the lights, light a candle or two, and you’re good to go.
Pro tip: You’ll want to make sure the temperature is perfect for when clothes come off. Try setting the AC to 25-27 degrees, keeping a fan on low, or whatever is most comfortable for you.
Get your Glow On
Pick the right oil (or lotion) for your massage. Find a smell that you love, that engages your senses in the right way. Essential oils contain different properties that stimulate various parts of your brain and body. For example, our Glow Arousing oil contains Mogra, an aphrodisiac in ancient Indian culture that’s proven to increase alertness, blood flow, and feelings of romance.
Pro tip: You’ll want an oil that gives you the right amount of slip and slide, while also absorbing into the skin and nourishing it from within. Oils with an avocado, jojoba, or grapeseed base are a great bet. Warm the oil in the microwave or by rubbing your hands together, for a heightened sensation.
Get Into It
Summon your inner massage guru, and get right into it. Like most things, the best massages are those given with love and tenderness. Use long, smooth, caressing strokes and let your hands glide all over your [partner’s] body, following the natural contours of the skin.
Switch Up Your Touch
While deep pressure can feel amazing, try switching it up and also play with light touches. “Run your fingers through their hair, gently graze their neck with the pads of your fingers or follow the smooth curves of their lips with your thumbs. This soft touching will give great results and allow you to move your focus from one area of the body to another fluidly," says Anabelle.
Up the Ante
Like a good song or movie, let the pressure build naturally. Move from light to hard, playing with sensation. “Pressing, kneading and rolling the thumbs against the body is a great way to workout tension in the muscles," she adds. "Press your thumbs against any body part and smoothly move them away from you, using the full extension of your thumbs. Moving each thumb, one after the other creates a continuous rolling sensation that will really get rid of knots and tight spots."
Follow Your Mood
As you continue on your sensual massage journey, follow your mood and/or your partner cues. Keep checking for consent through body language or verbal cues, and work your way towards a more intimate experience if that’s what you both desire. A happy ending can mean different things for each one of us– but you’re sure to leave with a smile on your face, if you follow your natural instincts and allow the beauty of your touch and senses to guide you.
In our experience, sensual massage allows you to bring down your mental and physical barriers, and seriously heightens the sensorial experience, taking your intimate encounter to the next level.
So, what are you waiting for? Glow on.
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