Diaper Duty & Date Nights: Balancing Your New Mommy Role

Saundarya Srinivasan - Aug 22, 2024

For new mothers navigating intimacy can be tough. But, here are some realistic and practical tips to help reignite the spark and prioritise pleasure!

Being a new mom is a beautiful journey. Your body changes and you’re in the process of getting used to it both mentally and physically. Your routine goes for a toss while trying to cope with that of your little one. And more often than not, the dreaded happens you lose intimacy with your partner and so starts the dry spell. In some ways, motherhood can feel as lonely as much as it can feel wholesome, and it is important to acknowledge it. But, you’ve got this, momma.

7 Come-andments of Navigating Intimacy as a New Mom

Embrace Small Surprises

We know you're tired, so instead of grand gestures, go for small surprises. Leave a sweet note for your partner, or plan a cosy movie night together after the baby sleeps. These little acts of thoughtfulness can go a long way in reigniting the spark.

Prioritise Connection

Intimacy isn't just about physical pleasure; it's about feeling emotionally connected. Make time for open communication with your partner. Share your feelings, fears, and joys – this emotional connection can lead to a deeper and more fulfilling intimate life.

Take Advantage of Naptime

We know naptime is precious, but why not use some of it for intimacy? Instead of tackling chores, you could take a quick nap together, or indulge in cuddling. It's a simple way to feel close and relaxed when you don’t know how to get in the mood right away.

Incorporate Quick and Easy Pleasures

Long lovemaking sessions might not be feasible. Opt for something quick and easy like cuddling, kissing, or trying new sensual massage techniques. These intimate gestures can be just as satisfying and don't require much energy. And if things get heated up, use lots of lube like Glide Water or Mini while you get it on. Be Gentle with Yourself

Remember, it's okay to take things slowly. Your body and mind are adjusting to motherhood, so allow yourself grace. Don't pressure yourself to have a perfect intimate life right away. Instead, focus on building a solid foundation of love and support.

Get Creative with Date Nights

Finding time for date nights can be tough so why not get creative? Have a cosy date night at home once your baby is asleep order takeout, watch a movie, or play a board game together. The key is to enjoy quality time without the pressure of going out.

Prioritise Self-Care

Taking care of yourself is crucial right now, Mom. When you feel good about yourself, it also boosts your confidence and desire for intimacy. Find small moments for self-care, whether it's a relaxing bath, reading a book, binge-watching your favourite show, or going for a walk.

Be patient with yourself, and know that it's normal to face challenges as new parents. It's okay to go at your own pace. By taking small, realistic steps and keeping the lines of communication open, you can nurture your intimate life and strengthen your bond as a couple. You've got this!