A Sexually Frustrated Indian Woman? Yes, I Exist!

Team MyMuse - Aug 08, 2024

And that’s why I’m a sexually frustrated woman in India. If you’re nodding along and thinking, “Same, sister, same!”, let’s break it down further.

"A sexually frustrated woman? In India? Unreal!"

That’s probably what a lot of Indians are thinking right now. Because, hey, Indian women don’t have urges, right? They never want it, never need it. The only connection between women and doing it is babies. So, before and after, there’s no need for a woman to be sexually frustrated.

Well, they’re wrong! Indian women want it, need it, and enjoy it. And as someone who, like millions of other women, fell prey to the "good girls don’t see, hear, talk, or learn about it" narrative, my awakening was late. And that’s why I’m a sexually frustrated woman in India. If you’re nodding along and thinking, “Same, sister, same!”, let’s break it down further.

The Common Causes

Cultural Conditioning: The age-old “log kya kahenge” (what will people say) mindset can really put a damper on things. When society labels desire as something to be hidden, it’s no wonder women feel sexually frustrated.

Lack of Sexual Education: Many women in India grow up without proper education, leaving them in the dark about their own bodies and libido.

Communication Breakdown: Ever tried dropping hints in the bedroom, only to have them fly right over your partner’s head? Yeah, that’s a thing. Open communication is key, but it’s often easier said than done.

Physical and Emotional Disconnect: Sometimes, the body and mind aren’t in sync. Stress, fatigue, and emotional disconnect can all contribute to a lack of satisfaction.

Overcoming the Frustration

So, how do we deal with this pent-up frustration? First, let’s get comfortable with the idea that it’s okay to have desires. You’re not a “bad” woman for wanting to explore your sexuality. In fact, it’s perfectly natural!

Start Talking: Whether it’s with a partner, a friend, or even a therapist, start talking about what’s bothering you. Sometimes, just voicing your frustrations can be the first step toward resolving them.

Self-Exploration: Get to know your body. Self-pleasure is a healthy way to understand what you like and don’t like. And hey, if you’re looking for a little help, products like MyMuse massagers (like the Groove wand massager) are a great way to explore safely and privately.

Educate Yourself: Knowledge is power. Educate yourself about intimate health and wellness. There are plenty of resources online that can help you better understand your body and your needs.

Mingle Around: One-night stands, date nights, friends with benefits, and other such arrangements exist for a reason. Just make sure you pick someone trustworthy and ready for this type of relationship.

Seek Professional Help: If the frustration feels overwhelming, don’t hesitate to seek help from a therapist.

The Winds of Change

Change is in the air, and it’s about time! We’re seeing more conversations about sexual wellness in Indian movies, TV shows, and literature. Remember that bold scene from Veere Di Wedding? Or the candid discussions in Four More Shots Please? These cultural shifts are helping to break the taboo, making it easier for women to speak up about their desires.

It’s Time to Take Charge

Sexual frustration doesn’t have to be a permanent resident in your life. By addressing the root causes and seeking out the right self-care products, you can reclaim your satisfaction and overall well-being. Remember, you deserve to feel good, and you have every right to explore what that means for you.

So, let’s kick the taboo to the curb, shall we? It’s time for Indian women to take charge of their pleasure and wellness and say, “Yes, I exist, and so do my desires!”