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The Art of Cunnilingus has left men baffled in its wake. It’s like perfection; always in front of you, but difficult to grasp…well, until now!
As much as we say that the journey matters more than the destination, it’s also important to reach the said destination and complete the trip once in a while. After all, sex without an orgasm is like a cake without frosting - it's just not quite as satisfying if we try to make do without it every time. So, gentlemen, if you want to pop her cork and unleash the bubbles of pleasure, you've got to give that bottle a good shake first! And that’s where the art of cunnilingus comes in. You gotta learn how to use your tongue’s power. It’s not always the missiles your lady wants, you know. So, what must you do and know to be a master of this sophisticated art? Read on for answers to these questions and more!
What Is The Art Of Cunnilingus?
It’s basically the practice of giving kisses to someone’s kitty if you know what I mean! You can use your mouth and tongue to try different techniques, pressures & rhythms to make them see stars.
The Golden Rules Of The Art Of Cunnilingus
Be The Gentle Nether Detective
When it comes to oral sex, there's no need to rush unless it's a quickie, so, it's best to do your research and study your partner's lady bits like a scholar. Think of it as a first date, where you ask all the right questions to get to know them better. These can happen outside of the bedroom or in there with a practical session, too. You can stroke her outer lips with your fingers while parting them gently, like a curtain, to reveal the mystery that lies beneath. Finding the elusive G-Spot & clit may seem like a wild goose chase, but fear not, my friends. The key is to take it slow and steady and keep exploring. Give that beautiful clit the attention it deserves. So, don't be afraid to stare and play with her down there until you figure out all her sweet spots.
A pro tip: You can make your mutual experience better by maintaining eye contact. Now eye contact can be very, very sexy if you know how to do it and when. Doing it when kissing— BIG NO!!! Doing it when going downtown with a little moaning music and dirty rap— BIG YES!!!
Heat The Oven Before You Bake
If you want to whip up some delish goodies, you've got to preheat that oven first. You can't just go diving in, tongue first, and make a mess of things down there! No, no, no. You've got to sensually navigate your way to her sweet spot without any slip-ups. Start with what you know (generally) and make an elaborate plan to stimulate every muscle in her body. You can start from the top at her lips and work your way down to the treasured button, slowly building up her cravings and anticipation. Power up your dirty talking skills and tell her what you wanna do to her. You'll wire her brain in the right direction, trust me.
Getting Into The Perfect Position
When it comes to performing in the bedroom, the position is key. It’s best not to start off with athletic poses because let’s be real, you don't want to break your or her back in the process. So, start easy but effectively by popping a pillow under her pelvis and giving it a boost. It's a win-win situation, really. She gets extra comfort and you avoid a chiropractor's visit. Another option is to have her lay towards the edge of the bed where her lower body hangs off it and you kneel before her. And once both of you feel confident enough to level up, you can ask her to take a seat like a queen (wink-wink). But remember, it's also about creating a connection and making her feel comfortable. So, make her laugh and moan with pleasure at the same time!
Techniques To Help You Master The Art Of Cunnilingus
If you really want to know what gets your lady going, then you need to use your ears and eyes because she knows best what she wants. But if she's not much of a talker, then pay attention to her body language. Trust me, it's like a secret code that unlocks the gates to her pleasure palace. And when it comes to mastering the Art of Cunnilingus that lights up her sexual energy chakras, here's what I've learned from my observations and a little experimentation-
The Art of Tongue-tation
If you're searching for her clit, don't attack it like you're in a battle zone with your tongue. Use the tip of your tongue or the entire thing to discover her hidden gem. The clit is the queen of the castle and can be found beneath the hood of the inner labia. So, find the hood at the top of her labia and you'll strike gold. And for a more precise plan of action, read It's Cliterally Right There: How to Find The Clit.
The Basic Technique: Tongue Action
Don't get your hands all slippery just yet - start with a good old up-and-down rhythm using your tongue. Build up the tension like a musical crescendo. You can try different motions like side to side, up and down, clockwise or counterclockwise, and more. Try nibbling, sucking, and kissing as well. And when the rhythm starts to take hold, don’t switch things up and try something new. Keep at it!
The Double-Digit Dance
Once you've got her engine revved up and purring like a kitten, it's time to introduce the dynamic duo - your trusty index and middle fingers. Tease her by sliding them up and down the sides of her vaginal wall, opening and exposing her vulva and clit. If you're feeling adventurous, add your tongue to the mix for some triple-threat action. Just remember, don't go all in just yet, let her savour the tantalising build-up.
Here's another pro tip for you: Tapping the upper part of the vulva with your three fingers or palm, nice and slow, will drive her wild. Trust me, it's like playing a sexy little percussion instrument down there. You can also involve a helpful third party in the form of a pH-balanced lubricant gel like Glide for the added tuning.
Patience Is The Ultimate Answer
Look, not every woman is going to orgasm and that's okay. But if you want to try and unlock the mysteries of the orgasmic universe, then patience is your trusty companion on this journey. Don't just focus on getting her off like it's a race, or you'll be missing out on all the fun yourself! The sexiest thing you can do is be in the moment and kneel before her. It is better than winning the lottery. Your unwavering desire to please her will lead to fireworks, not your desperate search for a shortcut!
While it’s important to note that some ladies might not be into cunnilingus, it's often their favourite dish on the sexual menu. Your tongue's magical powers can leave an unforgettable impression on her and make her want to come back for seconds, thirds, and more. So, it's crucial to train yourself in the Art of Cunnilingus to give her the full-course meal she deserves.
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