Countless wellness blogs and Instagram influencers all have the same advice when it comes to being less selfish in life. The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. Give the world the best you have, and the best will come to you. The greatest achievement is selflessness… well, you get the gist.
But what about being selfless in bed?
We can’t really talk about the #GiftOfGiving without talking about being a better 'giver' in bed.
Contrary to popular belief, sex isn't only about you.
So put those hands (and heads) to better use. Here are five failsafe ways you can be a better (read: less selfish) lover in bed:
Take your time.
Don’t go straight for the kill. Enjoy the journey and make sure that your partner is enjoying themselves too. If you happen to be done before, don't just roll over and get on your phone. Make sure they leave satisfied.
Make your satisfaction known.
Moan if you have to. Dirty talk. Tell them how much you like it. Make minor (but constructive) suggestions. Lighten the mood with a joke. Literally any noise you make is better than lying down in awkward silence, leaving the squelching sex noises resonating in your (and worse, your partner’s) ears.
Ask them what they want.
This one is pretty obvious. Just make sure to actually listen, too.
Don't be pushy.
Or you’ll seriously be pushing your luck. Acting like you are entitled to sex is a one-way ticket to ensuring you never get some. There’s no space for bad behaviour when it comes to boinking etiquette. Don’t make the experience suck for your partner (pun intended). Like if you really want them to go down on you, know that you need to…
Return the favour.
Because honestly, it’s the least you can do. Don’t leave a thank you card, be the thank you card.
That's all our suggestions for now– if you've got something to add to the list, send it our way. And til then, go forth and give the gift of pleasure (psst, it's free!)
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